Of Girlfriends, Make-up and Lipstick

I could hear them laughing from the front door. I could hear them giggling and talking excitedly as I came up the stairs. At the door, I paused for a second, wanting to delay the moment I intruded on their fun. The sight that met me on the other side of the door was exactly what I expected. The floors of the living and dining rooms were strewn with 'girly' items I had never owned. A million different shades of lipstick and fancy make-up kits, dainty looking shoes and an assortment of hair curling and straightening thingies. I gingerly tip-toed through the paraphenalia, into my bedroom and sat on my bed. As the sounds of the girls' laughter and singing stubbornly reached my ears, I got to thinking...

I have never had a girlfriend. I have had female friends of course, in boarding (high) school, in college, and even now at work and grad school. But I've never had a girlfriend.

A girlfriend is the girl you go shopping for shoes with, one you discuss your new beau with... one you go clubbing with, get drunk with, laugh with, cry with... And I just realized, I've never had one of those. In fact listening to my roommate having the time of her life with 5 of her girlfriends was a very weird experience. I was fascinated, terrified, and irritated...all at the same time

My boyfriend is my best friend....this time it doesnt sound that 'cute.' I take him shoe and candle and perfume shopping. I know when he says "This would look hot on you" he means it. But isnt a girlfriend a necessity. Why dont I have one? Why havent I had one yet? Boyfriend says its because i moved out of home too young (16) so I became 'self-reliant.' And I am too serious with my work and school, so I never had time...or never attracted 'girlfriend material' acquaintances.... Thats all well and good, but who will give me bad advice when i have relationship problems?? Who will help me pick colors for my wedding? Or plan my baby shower?

Whoa. A voice in my head just asked me "Who has always done it??"

Answer: My boyfriend.

This is sad. I need a girlfriend. Ok, lets see if I can find one real girlfriend before the end of the year. *shaking my head*

Stay tuned,

MystiQue