Of demon possessed colleagues…

You know, grad school/research is hard enough on its own without the extra non-related issues that come along with it. I actually don’t mind most of those issues, but I’ve always hated it when other people make my life difficult (almost unbearable in this case) just for the hell of it. I hate it when other people bring misery and anger to other people and it completely SUCKS when you cannot do anything about it/them.

I work with a demon possessed man. Sometimes I don’t think he’s possessed and I am convinced he is just a demon, period. Physically he looks like a cross between a sumo wrestler and a long bearded rock star; so that’s one thing. Emotionally and mentally, I am told he grew up in a not so ideal home (think junkies and alchies) so he has a lot of pent up rage that he has now decided to unleash on us innocent unsuspecting co-workers. He is rude, inconsiderate, stubborn, brooding, and might just take a verbal swing at you for absolutely no reason at all. I was unscathed by his wrath for the first few months I worked here, until he discovered that I was dating another guy we work with, who just happens to be the demon’s arch rival. Sucks, right? I cannot stand the fact that the boss and the rest of the department know what a total jerk this dude is and do absolutely NOTHING about it. I am also not comfortable about the fact that ‘possessed’ just bought a gun. Yes, a pistol or something like that…for ‘target practice he says’…Lord save me…

So the point of this post wasn’t just to complain and whine… I am wondering if people like that who make everyone’s lives miserable ever really make it in life? The evil part of me really hopes they don’t, so that they never have a position of power that they could use to make everyone else as miserable as they are. I hope one day he needs a job really badly and I am the lady in power on the other side of the desk who will throw his application in the trash. The good part of me thinks that everyone deserves a chance and that one day he will meet a nice woman who will show him the error of his ways and have him calm and kind… Nah, I doubt it. No woman will get within 10feet of this dude.

For now, I will stay out his way, try to forget every mean thing he says to me as soon as he says it… I will try to control the urge to add water to all his reagents and buffers, or saw thru the legs of his chair. I will not find out where he lives and pour sugar into his gas tank. I will not. I will pray for him, no matter how hard it is, and hope he gets fired soon :)

Back to work,

Of women, feminism, and hidden biological clocks

I've been thinking about this for a while, and it seems once...maybe twice a week I meet yet another woman who confirms it. I am tired of women, single or otherwise, hiding their loneliness behind 'independence', 'feminism' and 'pursuing their career'. Put a sock in it ladies!

Maybe I am missing something here. Is there anything wrong with a 30-something year old woman being single and admitting that she is lonely? It seems all the women I know in that scenario come up with (sometimes plain ridiculous) reasons why they are where they are and why they are perfectly happy....even though someone with one astigmatic eye can tell they are desperately hoping for Prince Charming to show up...like yesterday. I mean seriously, I think the thicker the blanket of fakeness we hide behind and the more often we recite those lies...the more nights we'll spend crying and sighing.

I was talking to a lady at work today...she is a little over 30, still trying to establish a career... But she is a sterotypical home-maker... Follows all the Macy's and HomeGoods sale, matches her sheets to her kitchen towels etc. I can almost hear her body and heart screaming for a companion...kids...a home to take care of and decorate. However, Prince Charming apparently missed a turn or something and she decided to go back to school. So instead of admitting that she's waiting for him, she insists she doesnt want to marry, and isnt looking!!? Nxa mhan, so frustrating ladies.

Stop the bra burning, be true to yourself (and the rest of us), love your life, love where you're at. Dont be ashamed to admit what you need, dream it, go get it, dont wait for it to find you...and stop hiding your emotions!!

Yah sis,
MystiQue